Many of the first enquiries we receive at Sandton Men’s Clinic come from partners. If you have noticed changes in your partner’s erections, desire or confidence, you may be unsure how to bring it up, or whether to bring it up at all. This guide may help.
Changes are common, and rarely about you
Erectile difficulties, low libido and premature ejaculation are common, and they are usually linked to stress, sleep, health conditions, alcohol, weight or anxiety. They are rarely a sign that he is less attracted to you. Knowing this can take some of the hurt out of the situation for both of you.
Choosing the right moment
- Talk somewhere private and relaxed, not in the bedroom straight after a difficult moment.
- Use “we” language: “I’ve noticed you seem stressed lately. Could we look into it together?”
- Focus on his wellbeing and energy, not only on sex.
- Be ready for some defensiveness. Give it time.
Why a men’s clinic, not just pills?
Erection problems can be an early sign of issues with blood vessels, blood sugar or hormones. A consultation looks at those likely causes rather than masking the symptom. At Sandton Men’s Clinic, George Mulaudzi, Naturopath, takes a natural, non-surgical approach and refers to a medical doctor when tests or prescriptions are needed.
What he can expect
A private, unhurried, one-to-one consultation. Appointments are spaced, parking is on site and the clinic is open 24 hours, 7 days a week, so he can choose a time that suits him. Video consultations are available if travelling is difficult.
Can I come along?
Many men prefer to come alone at first, and that is fine. Others find it helpful to bring their partner, especially when relationship stress is part of the picture. He can decide.
Where to find us
We are at 199 Vanessa Street, Buccleuch, Sandton, at the N1, N3 and M1 interchange. Men visit from across Gauteng, including Sandton, Midrand, Centurion and the East Rand. See all areas.
What to avoid saying
- Blaming language, such as “you never…” or “what’s wrong with you?”
- Comparisons with past partners or anything seen online.
- Raising it as a joke, even lightly. It can land harder than intended.
- Ultimatums. Pressure usually makes performance worries worse.
Looking after yourself too
Changes in your sex life can leave you feeling rejected, anxious or frustrated. Those feelings are valid. It can help to talk to a trusted friend or a counsellor, and to remember that these problems are usually about health and stress, not about your relationship or your attractiveness.
More questions
Can I book the appointment for him?
You can contact us on his behalf to ask questions, but it works best when he chooses to book himself and feels in control of the process.
Will you tell me what was discussed?
Consultations are confidential. We will only share information with his consent.
What if he refuses to go?
Give it time and keep the focus on his wellbeing. Sharing a gentle, factual article, such as when to see a men’s clinic, can open the door without pressure.
Ready to talk? Book a confidential consultation or call +27 10 205 9208. Sandton Men’s Clinic is at 199 Vanessa Street, Buccleuch, Sandton, open 24 hours, 7 days a week, with on-site parking. Consultations start from R2,500.
This article is general information, not a diagnosis. Sandton Men’s Clinic is a naturopathic practice led by George Mulaudzi, Naturopath. Where tests or prescription treatment are needed, we refer you to a medical doctor.